The Gift-of-Anger Process
 

The gift-of-anger process consists of 7-steps that begin with your initial feeling of anger and end with your enhanced sense of awareness, strength, and peace.

By following the 7 steps, you learn to:

• Regain your emotional balance (step 1).
   
• Gain a clearer understanding of what actually happened and why (step 2).
   
• Practice giving yourself honest and accurate self-validation (step 3).
   
• Identify your unmet need, which, while frequently unconscious, has caused you to feel a lack of power and capacity (step 4).
   
• Take small, manageable actions to build your sense of empowerment in the area of your unmet need (step 5).
   
• Explore the other person’s frame of reference so you understand some of their limitations (step 6)
   
• When you’re ready, forgive the other person so that you can detach from the experience and move ahead with your life (step 7).

By completing these 7 steps, you’ll find that your anger will have done its job of helping you to strengthen and grow in capacity and peace. As a result, you’ll be free to move beyond the experience, feeling more self-confident and empowered as a result of the steps that you’ve taken.